Lesson in Life Journey – The Plastic Bowl

This story might have been written, spoken, shared, not to mention immortalized in movies, commercials, etc, a thousand times. Nonetheless, the profound message conveyed will always be inspiring as it gives us a moment to pause and reflect on what is truly important in life.

May we cherish all those in our life, even those who challenge our patience.

Happy Holiday Everyone!

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A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Rice rolled off his spoon and onto the floor. When he grasped the cup, coffee spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.

“We must do something about Grandfather,” said the son. “I’ve had enough of his spilled coffee, noisy eating, and food on the floor.” So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a plastic bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he had dropped a spoon or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with plastic scraps on the floor. He asked the child curiously, “What are you making?” Sweetly, the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.” The four-year-old smiled and went back to play. The words so struck the parents that they were speechless! Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening, the husband took Grandfather’s hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a spoon was dropped, when coffee was spilled, or when the tablecloth was soiled.

KepadaMu Kekasih

KepadaMu Kekasih
Aku berserah
Kerana ku tahu Kau lebih mengerti
Apa yang terlukis di cermin wajahku ini
Apa yang tersirat di hati
Bersama amali

KepadaMu Kekasih
Aku bertanya
Apakah Kau akan menerimaku kembali
Atau harus menghitung lagi
Segala jasa dan bakti
Atau harus mencampakku ke sisi
Tanpa harga diri

(Chorus)
Hanya padaMu Kekasih
Aku tinggalkan
Jawapan yang belum ku temukan
Yang bakal aku nantikan
Bila malam menjemputku lena beradu

KepadaMu Kekasih
Aku serahkan
Jiwa dan raga
Jua segalanya
Apakah Kau akan menerima penyerahan ini
Apakah Kau akan menerimaku
Dalam keadaan begini

Growing Up

Note: I was motivated to write this yesteryear memory of a kampong girl growing up in a village in Johor, after reading the first 24 pages of Awang Goneng’s Growing Up in Trengganu (GUIT). With GUIT in hand, we will not only be given the opportunities to mesmerize the author’s beautifully crafted words, we will also be voluntarily traveling back to the time of the events. We will be given the rare opportunity to view diamonds showering down from the sky, we will appreciate how ice can survive in gunnies, etc. Don’t just take my words; we will all understand what I meant better after buying and reading GUIT.


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School holidays were here. And as always I would beg Mak to send me to Mbah (Javanese’s way of addressing grandparent)’s house, my maternal family home. I had at least two good reasons why I wanted to spend my school holidays at Mbah’s. Back in the 70 and 80’s, Mbah’s place was still quite far from the nearest town, making it the most ideal getaway for kids and teens to roam freely and temporarily forget about school demands, pressures, and curfews. The other reason (which was actually the ultimate ulterior motivated reason) was of course that as much as possible I wanted to avoid helping Mak doing household chores..haha! Cooking, cleaning pots & pans, washing dirty clothes, ironing, mopping floors, etc were (err… and towards certain extent still are, pity Himself!) not on top of my to-do list on weekends and holidays.

When at Mbah’s house, I just loved following her around at the spacious kampong backyard, tending her garden which was planted with tomatoes, peanuts, corns, watermelons, pumpkins, cucumber, and all sorts of green vegetables I normally buy from pasar malam, Carrefour, Giants, Tesco, etc nowadays. I would enjoy joining her and Aunt chasing after the hens, chickens and ducks we had earlier targeted to make delicious lunches and dinners. Sometimes I gave up the chase because I can never sprint as fast as the hens (I didn’t have much troubles cooping ducks because genetically they don’t have talents to be 100-meter sprinters!), so I just jogged while collecting the abandoned eggs inadvertently laid by the hens while being chased after by Mbah and Aunt.

Once Mbah and Aunt had finished plucking the vegetables and catching, slaughtering and cleaning the meats, I knew too well not to hang around the kitchen unless I didn’t mind volunteering pounding the onion, garlic, ginger, turmeric, galangal, etc with the pretty huge lesung, I swear I had to strain my every muscle just to lift the batu lesung (thank God blenders are invented!).

So, while the ladies were busy in the kitchen preparing lunches, I knew who I should hang around with, Uncle! He is only a few years older than me, so we were more like brother and sister. I would nag him to bring me to the farm behind the house where Mbah planted coconuts, coffees, cocoas and pineapples. Armed with parang and matches, we would roam the plantation looking for young coconuts to drink, we sometimes can even finish 4 wholesome coconuts at one go. We always made sure we wiped our mouth clean and threw away the young coconuts’ remaining to the bushes else Aunt would be scolding us, demanding reasons why we finished them off ourselves without sharing with her. To cover our track, we made a point to bring back a few freshly plucked pineapples so Mbah and Aunt can make rojak nenas mixed with freshly plucked cucumbers and ground peanuts for deserts. On the way back from the farm behind the house, I would ask uncle to find me red biji saga which sometimes sheepishly grew around the pineapples. I would then ask Aunt to string together the saga as beads for my charm bracelet later.

If the coconuts had all turned ripe and matured which later Mbah would pluck and sold them, we would just roam around to pick up bright red-colored ripe coffee beans, which later Mbah could sell or made home-made coffee herself. But picking up ripe coffee bean from the trees was not fun, it was more like chores. So more often than not, if there were no young coconuts, uncle would bring me to the creek, which sometimes can be the land divider between kampong neighbors.

Sometimes we would bump into uncles’ kampong boy friends who would woo us to join them playing combat-combat (battlefield war zone-like). But when I was tagging along, uncle would politely reject the invitation because the game would be too taxing for girls. We would then just jump into the creek and if were lucky we could even catch a handful of udang darat type of prawns which some of them could be as huge as lobsters. Since we brought matches along with us, we would make lit up some fire to roast and then ate the lobster-taste udang darat there and then.

So by lunchtime when we headed back home carrying with us the pineapples, our stomachs were already full with young coconuts and roasted lobsters. While uncle continued the lunch marathon together with Mbah and Aunt indulging with gulai itik, fried chicken, sambal telur, masak lemak pucuk ubi, etc, I just slumped next to Mbah, dozing off slowly especially with Mbah’s gentle hand caressing my head my hair lovingly…

Those were some of my wonderful memories of my growing up days.

I wonder whether there are others who had the similar kampung girl or boy memories?

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Train of Thought


I wonder how some weekdays I can just get very lucky. I got out from the house, opened the gate, locked it, got inside the car, started the car engine, pressed the fuel and glided through the road without having to press the break pad. I didn’t stop at traffic lights because they were all green all the way until I reached the train station. I didn’t have to queue to board the train because the coach smoothly welcomed me onboard just in time when I reached the platform. I even managed to find empty seat in the train, and the persons sitting next to me were very much awake or reading books; not snoring, nor loudly chatting.

It is as though I was in dreamland.

I am enjoying the sunset in Pangkor Island, Anuar Zain serenading me with “…Lelaki ini yang selalu memuja, Hanya diri mu, Yang bertahta dalam sanubari ku...” Oooooohhhhhoooohh……. ok lah, Himself is with me, BUT he doesn’t mind my ogling Anuar Zain just for a short while only!

Ok, ok, go back on track. I was sitting comfortably in the not so crowded train, heading to work, excitedly aware that the boss is still on holiday in Gold Coast. So basically no one is going to be harassing me in office for now. I only need to handle that one particularly very fussy client, but I have already prepared the company’s technology roadmap which I wish will make him happy.

Life is good, I am happy with my life. I couldn’t ask for more. Life also can be very embarrassingly funny sometimes.

I remember when I was in my teen years ago and it was school holiday. I dragged my sister along to board the bus heading to the city. I just wanted to hang out in the supermarkets, buying stationeries and colorful greeting cards, and all those stuffs. I think we could have been out in the city a little bit too long, so feeling a bit guilty I decided to buy a watermelon, a big wholesome watermelon.


And there we were, seated in the front most seats in the bus, right behind the driver, heading back home. It was difficult to hold the large melon, or maybe I was a much smaller size back then, so I just left the fruit underneath the seat. I was sharing some silly jokes I couldn’t remember what with my sister. Before we realized what had happened, the watermelon just glided through back and front, front and back, back and front, crossing underneath through those seats in the bus full of passengers, every time the bus passed through slightly hilly areas. And when the bus took corners, the watermelon just followed through, going left and right, right and left, left and right, criss-crossing those people. And for the life of me, I can never forget the roar of laughter inside the bus. I had not acquired thick skin back then, so I just felt like jumping out of the bus, there and then, to save myself from the mounting embarrassment. I think I did swear that once we reached our destination I would leave my sister to fetch the fruit herself and just pretended I didn’t know her, so I can run away from all the people. But unfortunately I didn’t, somehow the watermelon cleverly managed to get close to us just before we disembarked the bus, so we just dragged the fruit out of the bus and headed straight home.

That scene almost always never fails to pop out of my head every time any full load of passenger buses pass through me these days.

And, Oh Ya! What about the time when I stupidly rammed into the glass door because I …

Next Station, KL Sentral!

Oh well, I reached my destination, there goes my happy and funny train of thought!